There’s an enthusiasm about new beginnings – most of the times – I imagine. I remember for my self a joy and serenity in the possibilities in a new start, be it small or big, professional or personal.
Sometimes these possibilities seam like a huge projection, and I suppose they can easily become that. Maybe sometimes specifically because it is a huge projection it can get very bitter if failing to nourish that projection and the value that it had or could have had.
A feeling of shame can follow, resent, maybe loss of confidence, vulnerability… things we’ve learned to stay away from, block as much as possible. A survival of the fittest instinct makes us detect these as enemies and apparently we reject their source (what ever the initial start) entirely – resulting in abruptly disconnecting from the previous endeavor as we may be seeking for a new one. This post is contemplating on the context and state that results this disconnect and proposes an incentive to be aware and consider improving on the state any endeavor is being departed with.
After a fail or a hurt, one can grown fearful of new starts, self doubt can creep in, shame of past mistakes, vulnerability… fear it’ll be foolish or that others will think it foolish and/or might loose more then there might be to gain.
Attempts of self-awareness can backfire and blur the context and self-perception.
Like making it out of the dark woods, a weird state of tranquility can recalibrate, in which we try to focus on something else, preferably something that will help us grow – in this world that promotes the strongest, in this soup à la Darwin, which made sense to some extent in the past, but I was/am hoping we’d transcend this natural condition.
I suppose there are all sorts of reasons, more or less dramatic or melodramatic. Reasons that get us sometimes to not be keen or see the sense in continuing or finishing something. Then sometimes one may just not know how to continue something, perhaps overwhelmed, perhaps frightened, perhaps bored, perhaps eager to do something else, to find, learn and understand new things, new places. What ever the reasons, one can sometimes leave unfinished things on a shelve with the thought that it’ll be taken care of later, or sometime, or by someone else, or by itself.
I’m not proud to admit I save such things on a shelve. And this series is one of them, ironically enough the last episode that I had announced, more than two years ago, had this title set then. I knew.
I realize sometimes it’s difficult to finish some things and at times it may be more rational to not finish some things. But (after morally and rationally considered) I reckon is better to stay away from developing a habit to not finish things.
A song I love has between the lyrics: “every new beginning comes form some other beginning’s end” (Semisonic – Closing time).
While not EVERY new beginning HAS to come from some other beginning’s end, my realization is that if you don’t really finish something, that possible new beginning might be getting just a part of what you could offer in your attempt to make the most of it. Having, as much as possible, a redemptive closure of past endeavors enables (as I see it at least at this time) a bigger potential to value new beginnings it as you might hope or project on them.
The way we finish things recommends us for new beginnings.
I recommend you check your shelves or perhaps clean your closet sounds more familiar. It can be liberating, sometimes at least. It could be a closure you never had or never offered to someone. Even an unfinished ensemble of a miniature airplane model, a project, a confession… whatever it is, it can retain an unfinished part of your self. If you’ve realized it’s best unfinished, make it official and leave the shelf free. More space for things you’re currently focused on, either way would probably, at least, feel better to change the label by removing the ‘un‘ prefix from unfinished.